Confused

After several dates we have hit a sexual roadblock (I am going to start calling this girl “no sex girl”). You see we’ve been out a bunch of times over the last few weeks, but every time I try to take things to the next level it just doesn’t happen for one reason or another. Last night we actually talked about it and I guess there seems to be a lack of chemistry or maybe we are each just used to different things/have different styles and vibrate on different wavelengths. It is really frustrating whatever it is and we are not sure how to fix it or if it even is fixable. I want to make it clear that I adore “no sex girl.” Mentally we really like each other, have a great time together, laugh a lot, and I am attracted to her physically, but I think she thinks of me as a friend now.

I am all too aware of the physical lack of compatibility but the thought of losing someone I actually like is upsetting. Is this something that can be worked on? We did discuss it for a while last night but we couldn’t come up with a solution. To make matters worse, it turns out that she was allergic to my feather bed and basically had an asthma attack all night. It seems like the negatives keep piling up against me.

It has been hard to find a girl that I connect with in this town, and now that I have, there is a huge dynamic missing. I once dated a girl who I really liked but the sexual chemistry was missing for me. I tried to see if I could learn to be more into her, but eventually things fizzled out. Have the tables now turned?

SO HOW WAS LAST NIGHT? It was full of sexual tension…but not the good kind.