Play it cool

For the second time I had a tentative plans to go out on a 3rd date with this girl and she canceled. I don’t want to write a script in my head for what is going on, but even though she said she had to work late tonight, the last text message back and forth was her saying she wasn’t sure what time she would get out, and I asked her to keep me posted. Well, I wasn’t kept posted and I never heard from her.

Obviously I have no way of knowing what is going on, but I do know that we had 2 very good dates, and then there is some distance in between dates. When I act that way it is usually because I’m going out with multiple people and I may like someone more, so I’ll plan tentative dates with the #2 girl and then cancel if #1 winds up being free. Then I reschedule #2 for another day. I don’t think I should do that anymore. Being #2 is not fun if you like the person.

I don’t know what I should do – on the one hand, there’s no rule against dating more than one person at this early of a stage and it isn’t something I can say to her because then I’ll come off as crazy. I think that the ball is now in her court, so I definitely won’t call her for at least 4 days. Then if I haven’t heard from her I’ll make one last attempt in case she is interested but just happens to be the kind of girl that likes to be pursued and/or fucked with. Honestly if that is the case, it might be a red flag anyway, but I’ve got nothing to lose.

I should play it cool and see what happens naturally I guess, but I don’t like it.


SO HOW WAS LAST NIGHT? I waited 3 days to call her and then she called me back the next day and was very talkative on the phone and it seemed like everything was normal. I’m more confused now than ever. Is this just a game? Maybe this is karma for having this website.