Bait and Switch

I recently adjusted my diet. I found out that I had high cholesterol even though I don’t eat meat. My brother is the most health conscious person I know, so I called him for advice and he told me to stop eating wheat, dairy, alcohol, refined sugar and salt. I know this sounds like a lot of things to cut out but I did it. I now eat mostly fruit, vegetables and fish.

I haven’t really had a problem sticking to the diet in my normal life, but it is proving to be an issue in my dating life. What girl would want to date a guy with this many food restrictions? I certainly don’t think they would want to hear a dude talk about them so I have decided to adjust my brother's diet to not include dates – when I’m with a girl all food is fair game.

That being said, I am trying to choose restaurants that have healthy food options – fish, veggies etc., but last night at dinner I had a dilemma. I knew going in that I wanted to order the sea bass. When we sat down, the lovely lady I had the pleasure of dining with wanted to share a few dishes, one of which was a pizza. I thought it was a good sign that she wanted to share a few plates so I gave in and ate the delicious goat cheese and truffle oil pie.

I called my brother today and told him that I thought he would be mad at me because I ate pizza last night. He said it was ok if I needed to eat the wrong foods once in a while for my mental health. I explained that I didn’t really need to eat it but I didn’t want the girl I like to think I was a manorexic pansy.

I realize that I’m not being completely honest if I don’t tell the girl about my diet, but I hope I’m charming enough that I’ll be able to woo the right girl before I break the news and pull off the old bait and switch.

SO HOW WAS LAST NIGHT? In addition to the pizza, I also drank a lot of wine. From now on my diet goes out the window if I’m out with a girl I like. But if I decide I don’t like her, I’m going to spend the whole evening talking about how healthy I am and how wheat makes you fat.

A 3rd date was scheduled

Well, I called the girl again and we spoke for 45 minutes. At one point I said “I have a question for you.” “OK” she replied… “Do you want to go out again?” She said yes and we scheduled a date for Friday.

Friday afternoon I texted her to see if she would be cool with a vegetarian restaurant (I am kind of on a health kick). She said she was up for something healthy, but not sure about a veggie place. I get that, so I said I would figure out a plan b. I did and was all ready to go. I called her to see what time I should pick her up, but she didn’t answer. I then got a text message about 45 minutes later “I’m so sorry. Please don’t hate me but I have to cancel tonight ☹ I was feeling sick and hoping it would be better but is only getting worse.”

I responded by saying “OK. Well I hope you feel better. (I did come up with a perfect plan b though). Let me know if you need anything.”

This is now the third time she canceled on me, and we have only successfully been out twice. This doesn’t work for me, and there’s no way I’m calling her again.

SO HOW WAS LAST NIGHT? 3 strikes and you’re out

Play it cool

For the second time I had a tentative plans to go out on a 3rd date with this girl and she canceled. I don’t want to write a script in my head for what is going on, but even though she said she had to work late tonight, the last text message back and forth was her saying she wasn’t sure what time she would get out, and I asked her to keep me posted. Well, I wasn’t kept posted and I never heard from her.

Obviously I have no way of knowing what is going on, but I do know that we had 2 very good dates, and then there is some distance in between dates. When I act that way it is usually because I’m going out with multiple people and I may like someone more, so I’ll plan tentative dates with the #2 girl and then cancel if #1 winds up being free. Then I reschedule #2 for another day. I don’t think I should do that anymore. Being #2 is not fun if you like the person.

I don’t know what I should do – on the one hand, there’s no rule against dating more than one person at this early of a stage and it isn’t something I can say to her because then I’ll come off as crazy. I think that the ball is now in her court, so I definitely won’t call her for at least 4 days. Then if I haven’t heard from her I’ll make one last attempt in case she is interested but just happens to be the kind of girl that likes to be pursued and/or fucked with. Honestly if that is the case, it might be a red flag anyway, but I’ve got nothing to lose.

I should play it cool and see what happens naturally I guess, but I don’t like it.


SO HOW WAS LAST NIGHT? I waited 3 days to call her and then she called me back the next day and was very talkative on the phone and it seemed like everything was normal. I’m more confused now than ever. Is this just a game? Maybe this is karma for having this website.

Lost

The girl I’d gone out with a few times was busy this week so I went out on Tuesday with a new one. I met her at an event and talked to her for a while. It was clear to me that she was interested but I was indifferent so I didn’t make a move. It figures that when I don’t really care it makes the girl like me more (I wish I could fake that attitude with girls I’m actually interested in).

Anyway, she wound up tracking me down on a popular social networking site so eventually I gave in and met her for drinks. We finished our second drink around 10pm and I suggested we call it an evening. We went outside and to my surprise she started making out with me in the middle of the street. It was cool, but I was tired and ready to leave. I tried to make a move to go, but she just stood there. I wasn’t sure what to do, so I asked if she wanted to come over to my place for a drink. There was an awkward pause and before she answered I continued, “or we can just go home…it is a Tuesday after all.”

She said it was a hard choice, and she wasn’t good at making decisions. Now, I knew that she wanted me to tell her to come over so she didn’t feel like the aggressor (or a slut), but as I mentioned, it was Tuesday and LOST was on, so instead I responded with the following: “It’s an easy decision, either you come over or you go home.” “Do you even care?” she replied. “Not really,” I said, “if you come over it’ll be fun, or you can go home and maybe I’ll invite you over another night.” There was another pause as I don’t think this was the answer she was expecting from me, and at this point I realized that I had to make a decision between having sex or watching a TV show.

I took her pause as an opportunity to make the decision for her.

SO HOW WAS LAST NIGHT? I can’t believe Sun and Jin drowned. (Don’t judge me, LOST is not just any TV show and if she came over I’d most likely hear what happened before I got a chance to watch it).

Second Date

After our date on last week, I got a nice “I had a great time. Thanks!” text, which turned into an hour of texting that night. Seemed like a good sign to me. Eventually it was time for bed and I told her I’d call her the next day. Our weeks were both busy and we tried to get together on Tuesday night, but she had to cancel. We finally had our second date on Friday night.

Once again we went for dinner, had great conversation and eventually realized we should leave because the restaurant started to clear out. We kept the night going with a glass of wine at a bar. The wine was mediocre but the company was great. Conversation was easy and it was only a second date but I had another great time. If you know me or if you’ve been reading this blog you’d know that I don’t usually want to go on a second let alone third date with most girls, but a third date is all I’ve been able to think about with this one.

I’m sorry there’s not a funny story from this date, for me a good date beats a funny one any day.

SO HOW WAS LAST NIGHT? We kissed and I told her I thought we were 2 for 2.